I’ve spent years advocating for trans rights online, but nothing prepared me for the gut punch of a viral X thread. It was a silly poll, meant as a joke: “Who’d you rather date—J.K. Rowling or a trans activist?” I laughed it off at first, until I saw the numbers. Thousands picked Rowling, the celebrated Harry Potter author and philanthropist, over someone like me. The comments stung, and as a trans woman fighting for acceptance, it left me disheartened—but it also made me think.
My name is Lena, and I’m a 29-year-old trans activist who’s been vocal on X since 2020. I share stories of trans resilience, call out discrimination, and push for inclusive policies, often in heated threads. On August 15, 2025, while scrolling X in my small apartment, I stumbled across a post by @FunPolls4All: “Date night fantasy! J.K. Rowling, multi-award-winning author and women’s rights advocate, or a trans activist fighting for change? Vote and comment!” The poll had over 10,000 votes, with 68% choosing Rowling. Comments flooded in: “Jo’s a legend, wrote my childhood!” “She’s fierce and stands her ground.” “Philanthropist queen!” Some were harsher, echoing Rowling’s gender-critical views: “Real women only, sorry.”
I felt my chest tighten. Rowling’s name is a lightning rod for trans folks like me. Since 2019, she’s voiced concerns about trans activism, arguing that biological sex matters in women’s spaces like bathrooms and prisons. She’s called trans women “men” in posts, like one on August 22, 2025, saying, “The message to girls: you are a costume any man can put on” (). Her supporters cheer her as a feminist hero, citing her £70,000 donation to a women’s rights case that defined “woman” as biological sex (,). But for me, her words hurt. They fuel debates that question my identity, like when she misgendered a trans journalist or dismissed trans youth as nonexistent (). Seeing X users pick her—knowing her views—felt like a rejection of my existence.
The comments weren’t all cruel. Some praised Rowling’s charity, like her work with women’s shelters, or her Harry Potter legacy, which shaped millions, including me as a teen. I loved Hogwarts’ lessons of courage and found family, but her recent X posts—like mocking a trans soccer manager ()—clash with that magic. The poll’s lighthearted tone hid a deeper divide: her fans see a principled author; I see someone whose words make my fight harder.
I posted my own thread: “Seeing J.K. Rowling win a ‘dating’ poll on X hurts. Her views question my identity, yet thousands cheer her. How do we bridge this gap?” Replies were mixed. @KindHeart22 wrote, “I get why you’re upset, but Jo’s just speaking her truth.” @TransPrideNow said, “You’re valid, Lena. Her fame doesn’t erase our worth.” The back-and-forth echoed real debates I’ve seen, like when actors Daniel Radcliffe and Emma Watson called out her views, saying trans people deserve respect ().
As I read more, I realized the poll wasn’t about dating—it was about influence. Rowling’s fame, wealth (worth £945 million in 2024), and outspokenness make her a titan, even if her views alienate some (). My activism, though vital, reaches fewer. I felt small, but then I remembered: my work changes lives, one post at a time. A trans teen once messaged me, saying my threads helped them come out. That’s my magic.
The X thread faded, but its sting lingered. I’m disheartened, yes, but not defeated. Rowling’s supporters and I may never agree, but we’re all human, navigating a messy world. Maybe one day we’ll talk—not shout—across the divide. Until then, I’ll keep posting, keep fighting, keep being me.
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