She relinquished every legal tie to me and disappeared eight months after I arrived in the world.
My father told me she never once asked how I was doing, and I had never laid eyes on her or heard her voice.
Twelve months ago, her name flashed across my computer screen on the day’s appointment roster—I’m employed at a legal practice.
When she walked through the glass doors, my knees turned liquid.
Her hair was shorter than in the lone photograph I possessed—choppier now, threaded with silver. Her voice sounded like syrup poured over gravel: silky yet jagged at the edges. She didn’t recognize me, not even a flicker of hesitation while she scribbled her signature on the sign-in sheet.
I stared at the schedule like it could decode the last quarter-century. Tirzah Mendel. The name looked counterfeit. Like it belonged to a stranger on another continent, not the woman who carried me and then walked away.
She was here to contest a will—our office represented the opposing party. I wasn’t the lead attorney, but as the paralegal I had to assemble the files and escort visitors to conference rooms. So I had to guide her back.
She gave me a courteous smile while I led her down the corridor, asking whether this was “my first year.” I nearly stumbled. My brain screamed to blurt out the truth, to declare myself, to demand why. But my mouth answered, “No, I’ve been here a few years.”
She strode right past the framed family photo I keep on my desk. She didn’t even glance at it.
After the meeting, she left with her counsel, chatting about lunch plans as if it were any other Tuesday. I locked myself in the restroom and vomited.
That night, I called my father. I hadn’t mentioned her in years. The instant I uttered her name, the line went silent.
“I never told you,” he said, voice low, “but she tried to reach out when you turned eighteen. Just a letter. I didn’t hand it over.”
I felt like I’d been struck in the gut. “Why?”
“She’d already hurt you enough, Ruhi. I didn’t want her reopening the wound.”
I wanted to shout, but the words lodged in my throat. Part of me understood. Another part—one I hadn’t known existed until that moment—was desperate to know her. Not because I believed she’d earned another shot, but because I owed myself some answers.
I couldn’t stop replaying the encounter. For weeks I scoured the internet—Google, LinkedIn, county property rolls. She lived forty minutes away, remarried, no additional children listed. Profession: therapist. The irony made me snort.
Eventually, I mailed her a letter.
It was brief. I introduced myself, reminded her we’d already met at the firm, and said I’d learned the truth. I added that I wasn’t angry—only curious. If she preferred silence, I’d honor it. I enclosed my email.
She responded forty-eight hours later.
Her tone was formal. Cordial. Almost chilly. She claimed she hadn’t realized I worked there, that my name on the calendar hadn’t triggered recognition, and that she was “relieved” I wasn’t furious. Then she added:
“I’d like to meet, if you’re willing. I don’t expect anything—I simply want to talk.”
We settled on a café halfway between our neighborhoods. I arrived early. She showed up ten minutes late.
She wore beige from head to toe. No makeup. She looked like someone who never hurried, never panicked. Meanwhile, my palms were damp enough to stain the sleeves of my sweater.
“Hi, Ruhi,” she said softly, taking the opposite seat. “You resemble your father.”
I nodded, words failing me.
She began with her side.
She had been twenty-two when I was born; the pregnancy was unplanned. My dad was twenty-seven, working double shifts, rarely home. She suffered postpartum depression, but no one labeled it back then. Her own mother told her to “snap out of it.”
“I didn’t bond with you,” she admitted, eyes glossy yet voice steady. “I felt like a stranger cradling another woman’s child. I know that sounds awful.”
I stayed silent.
“I walked away because I didn’t trust myself to remain. I believed I was doing the right thing. But I’ve carried that choice every single day.”
I finally spoke. “Why didn’t you try harder afterward? Why only one letter when I was eighteen?”
She exhaled. “I was terrified. Your father made it clear he didn’t want me near. I assumed you despised me too.”
I wanted to. God, I wanted to. But looking at her, I only felt hollow. Like I’d been lugging someone else’s luggage for decades.
We met three more times after that. Each encounter a fraction warmer, a notch easier. She spoke about her practice, her second marriage (now dissolved), and how she’d never had more kids. I told her about my job, my roommate, my ridiculous cat.
Still, something felt off.
She kept sidestepping deeper questions. Each time I probed for specifics—photos, the hospital, the day she left—she deflected or grew vague. “Everything’s a blur,” she’d say. Or, “I’d rather not revisit the worst parts.”
Then one afternoon, the façade cracked.
I was filing old case records when I spotted a custody file from 1999, the year after my birth. The caption leapt out: Mendel v. Suresh.
That was her versus my dad.
I opened it.
She hadn’t voluntarily surrendered rights. She had fought for custody.
Twice.
The file was sealed, but as the subject I was entitled to view it. The details were messy. She’d been in therapy, yes—but police reports were attached. One neighbor testified she’d left me wailing for hours. Another swore they’d seen her slap me on the porch.
There were photographs. Nothing horrific, merely neglectful: me in a diaper on a filthy kitchen floor, sour bottles in the sink, a timeline of missed feedings. Enough for the judge to say no.
I stared until the pages blurred. My father hadn’t lied—she had left. But he’d edited everything else. And so had she.
When I confronted her, she froze mid-sip.
“You weren’t meant to find that,” she whispered.
“I work at a law firm,” I said. “Did you think paper disappears?”
She closed her eyes. “I wanted to shield you from how bad it got. I thought if we started fresh…”
“But it wasn’t fresh,” I snapped. “It was half the story.”
She offered no defense. Just nodded, tears slipping silently.
I cut contact for two months. I didn’t even inform my father.
During that stretch I finally sought therapy—something I’d always considered unnecessary. I’d assumed I was “fine.” Instead I discovered years of muted emotions I couldn’t label. My therapist helped me untangle them.
Eventually I confronted Dad.
I laid the file on the kitchen table. He looked older just touching it.
“I never lied,” he said quietly. “I wanted you to see her as someone who couldn’t hurt you. I hoped maybe someday she’d resurface, and you wouldn’t hate her—or yourself for wanting to know her.”
He looked smaller than I’d ever seen him.
“She was sick,” he added. “But for a while she did fight.”
I asked if he still hated her.
He gave a dry laugh. “I never hated her. I was just… exhausted.”
And strangely, that was the moment everything softened. Not only with him—with her too.
I reached out again. Not immediately, but eventually.
This time I skipped the interrogation. I simply invited her to my birthday dinner. My friends, my dad, my roommate, my coworkers. She brought a box of vegan cookies. I don’t even like vegan desserts, but I ate one.
She didn’t linger. But she smiled on her way out. And I let her hug me.
We’re not close. I doubt we ever will be, not in the Hallmark sense. But I do know her now, for better and worse.
I once believed I was incomplete because she left. Like a puzzle missing its center. But I’ve learned something different.
Some gaps aren’t meant to be patched. They’re meant to be studied. Charted. Respected.
You don’t have to reconstruct every shattered piece.
Sometimes you simply trace the fracture lines so you can step around them—without falling in again.
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